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I’M A FARMER’S DAUGHTER—AND SOME PEOPLE THINK THAT MAKES ME LESS

I grew up on a sweet potato farm about ten miles outside of town, where mornings start before the sun and “vacation” means a county fair. My parents have dirt under their nails and more grit than anyone I know. I used to think that was enough for people to respect us.

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Then I got into this fancy scholarship program at a private high school in the city. It was supposed to be a big break. But on my first day, I walked into homeroom with jeans that still smelled a little like the barn, and this girl with a glossy ponytail whispered, “Ew. Do you live on a farm or something?”

I didn’t even answer. I just sat down and kept my head low. I told myself I was imagining things. But little comments kept coming. “What kind of shoes are those?” “Wait, so you don’t have WiFi at home?” One guy asked me if I rode a tractor to school.

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I kept my mouth shut, studied hard, and never mentioned home. But inside, I hated that I felt ashamed. Because back home, I’m not “that farm girl.” I’m Mele. I know how to patch a tire, wrangle chickens, and sell produce like nobody’s business. My parents built something real with their hands. Why did I feel like I had to hide that?

The turning point came during a school fundraiser. Everyone was supposed to bring something from home to sell. Most kids showed up with cookies from a box or crafts their nannies helped them make. I brought sweet potato pie—our family’s recipe. I made six. Sold out in twenty minutes.

That’s when Ms. Bell, the guidance counselor, pulled me aside and said something I’ll never forget. But before she could finish, someone else walked up—someone I never expected to talk to me, let alone ask that question…

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It was Izan. The guy everyone liked. Not because he was loud or flashy—he just had this calm, confident way of being. His dad was on the board, his shoes were always spotless, and he actually remembered people’s names. Including mine.

“Hey, Mele,” he said, looking at the empty pie plates. “Did you really make those yourself?”

I nodded, unsure where this was going.

He grinned. “Think I could get one for my mom? She loves anything sweet potato.”

I think I blinked twice before managing, “Uh, yeah, sure. I can bring one Monday.”

Ms. Bell gave me this little smile like, Told you so, then said, “I was just saying—this pie? This is a piece of who you are. You should be proud to share more of that.”

That night, I stayed up late thinking. Not about Izan, but about all the times I’d hidden my roots, thinking they made me smaller. But what if they made me stronger?

So Monday, I didn’t just bring a pie. I brought flyers. I made up a name—Mele’s Roots—and passed out slips that said “Farm-to-table pies, fresh every Friday. Ask about seasonal flavors.” I figured maybe a few kids would be curious.

By the end of lunch, I had twelve pre-orders and a DM from someone named Zuri asking if I could cater their grandma’s birthday party.

It got wild after that. Teachers started asking me if I could do mini pies for staff meetings. One girl even offered to trade me a designer jacket for three pies. (I said no. Respectfully. It was ugly.)

But what really blew me away was when Izan messaged me a photo of his mom holding a fork mid-bite, eyes wide. The caption said, She says this is better than her sister’s—and that’s a big deal.

I laughed out loud. My dad looked over and said, “That a good thing or a bad thing?”

“Very good,” I said. “I think we might be expanding.”

We started baking together every Thursday after my homework. Sometimes just pies, sometimes biscuits or bread. I learned more about our family’s recipes than I ever had before. And I started bringing those stories into school presentations and essays—talking about the land, my grandparents, our struggles during drought years.

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And slowly, people listened.

The girl with the glossy ponytail? She asked me for a recipe. I gave her a simplified one—no way she’s using a wood-fired oven—but it felt good.

Senior year, when we had to do a final project on something that shaped our identity, I made a documentary-style video about our farm. I filmed my mom washing carrots in a bucket, my dad feeding the dogs crusts from the bread he baked. I ended it with me at the county fair, standing next to my little stall of pies under a hand-painted sign.

When they played it in front of the whole school, I was terrified. I stared at the floor the whole time. But when it ended, people clapped. Loud. A few even stood.

Afterward, Izan came over and gave me a side hug. “Told you your story mattered.”

I smiled. “Took me a while to believe it.”

The truth is, I used to think people wouldn’t respect me if they knew where I came from. Now I know, you teach people how to see you. When you own your story, it becomes your power—not your shame.

So yeah—I’m a farmer’s daughter. And that doesn’t make me less.

It makes me rooted.

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