In November 2022, an anonymous user shared her story on Reddit’s “Off My Chest” forum. She began by explaining that she had been in a relationship with her fiancé for six years and engaged for eight months. While she managed most of the wedding planning, her fiancé, referred to as Ryan, occasionally provided input.
In October, Ryan surprised her with a peculiar request after discussing wedding plans with his coworkers. He suggested she should not wear a white dress.
This request puzzled her, but she dismissed it, thinking it was due to his artistic nature and perhaps related to how the wedding photos would turn out.
Following a heated argument, she felt “disgusted” by his actions, causing her to seriously reconsider their future together.
Nevertheless, she remained determined to wear white and told him so. Ryan seemed annoyed but eventually dropped the matter.
What Happened after the Woman Bought a White Wedding Dress?
Two weeks before the wedding, she finally bought her dress, which caused a major conflict with Ryan. He was irritated and insisted on seeing the dress, but she refused, wanting to keep it a surprise.
When he pressed further and she revealed the dress was white, he exploded. She was bewildered, as white is a traditional choice for brides. Ryan preferred red, believing brides should only wear white if they were “pure.”
To provide context, they started dating when she was 21 and he was 20. He had been a virgin, and she had only one previous partner, her high school sweetheart. Although they had moved past initial insecurities, this issue resurfaced.
Ryan even sought his mother’s support, but she sided with the bride-to-be. During a heated confrontation, his mother suggested he should also wear red since he was no longer a virgin. This confrontation brought Ryan to tears, but he insisted her wearing white would deceive their guests and claimed different standards for men.
What Did the Woman Decide?
The events made her question her relationship with Ryan. She was appalled by his fixation on her past, particularly her virginity at 18, long before they met. This led her to seek support from others.
In a later update on the “Dating Advice” forum, dated November 24, 2022, she revealed that she had broken off her engagement. Now in her late 20s, she was preparing for her first date in six years, unsure of what to wear to a waterfront seafood restaurant in North Carolina. Commenters suggested she wear red.
After reading this story, do you agree with her decision to end the engagement, or would you have chosen differently? Click here to read another story about a man who wanted his fiancée’s hymen checked by his dad in front of their family to prove her purity.